February 27, 2008...4:51 pm

R.I.P. Vi Landry

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I was in New Orleans last week for a school project. More on that later. A friend of many of my friends, Vi Landry, was killed earlier that week in Mississippi in a car accident. Her funeral procession on Sunday was the most moving event I have attended in years. It was a testament to the inspiration and love she left with her friends and family. I feel honored to get a glimpse of her in this ritual. (Her ashes are in the boat.)

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* 03/19/08 – I just remembered how this poem was read before the boat was placed in the water. I think someone received it from Vi in an email. It’s by Rumi. I like it very much, so let’s save it here.

The New Rule

It’s the old rule that drunks have to argue
and get into fights.
The lover is just as bad. he falls into a hole.
But down in that hole he finds something shining,
worth more than any amount of money or power.

Last night the moon came dropping its clothes in the street.
I took it as a sign to start singing,
falling up into the bowl of sky.
The bowl breaks. Everywhere is falling everywhere.
Nothing else to do.

Here’s the new rule: break the wineglass,
and fall toward the glassblower’s breath.

Inside this new love, die.
Your way begins on the other side.
Become the sky.
Take an axe to the prison wall.
Escape.
Walk out like someone suddenly born into color.
Do it now.
Your covered with thick cloud.
Slide out the side. Die,
and be quiet. Quietness is the surest sign
that you’ve died.
Your old life was a frantic running
from silence.
The speechless full moon
comes out now.

“I used to want buyers for my words.
Now I wish someone would buy me away from words.

I’ve made a lot of charmingly profound images,
scenes with Abraham, and Abraham’s father, Azar,
who was also famous for icons.

I’m so tired of what I’ve been doing.

Then one image without form came,
and I quit.

Look for someone else to tend the shop.
I’m out of the image-making business.

Finally I know the freedom
of madness.

A random image arrives. I scream,
“Get out!” It disintegrates.

Only love.
Only the holder the flag fits into,
and wind. No flag.”

17 Comments

  • wow, great pictures. Usually events like this are so hard to encapsulate in little 4 by 6 images, but that’s what it was like. What a beautiful day.

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  • Yea, it was so amazing. I’m glad you feel the pictures caught a bit of the second line’s fullness.

  • Thank you for the photos.

  • Thank you for posting these photos. I learned of Vi’s death only two days before this event and couldn’t make it back to town in time. I’m an old friend of hers from New Orleans (living in DC now). I think you all captured Vi’s spirit perfectly with the second line…and sending her ashes off in a burning boat on the Mississippi was brilliant. Vi loved it, I’m sure! Whenever I’m back in New Orleans, I’m going to go to the Moonwalk (an area next to the river, by Jackson Square) and sit and visit with her. It’s wonderful to know that she will continue to travel the world on its waters. Thanks again to all who gave her this phenomenal send-off to her next adventure….

  • your two photos of the boat shove-off are striking. i’m glad you captured that moment. i think i saw you there crouching near the water…

  • that kind of ritual is pretty, because it’s organic, “from below,” if you will. the kind that really gets my gag reflex going is the kind that’s imposed “from above” (I really need to find a better way to make this distinction), because the mere fact of imposition makes it inauthentic. It’s like the kind of distinction Tolstoy makes between “natural” and “unnatural” or contrived characters, which I guess draws on Rousseau…

  • I just found out she was and still is a great women even though for th short time i knew her at apples we got really close.
    I feel bad enough helping her buy that old car. I feel like if I got her something more sturdy or large she might be alive today. I miss her tons I wish I could have spoke to her one more time just wished her a happy new year. This breaks my heart. I will miss her dearly.

  • Natalie,
    “from below” and the “from above” seems to be an important distinction to make. I am not too keen on Tolstoy’s terminology of “natural” and “unnatural.” It makes them sound counterintuitive. Though the charged examples will have these two kinds of ritual at odds, I feel like there must be a give and take, right? Good luck delineating the distinctions. Quite a task you have on your hands!

  • Oh, Brett… Thanks for posting. It’s so tempting to take responsibility somehow, because then we can imagine how we could have made it different. Grief drags us through terrible mind games. Go easy on yourself.

    My condolences.

  • Thanks Ida, it’s just hard to think something my be your fault. I know it wasn’t I am just awe struck and sad and sometimes the easiest thing to do is put blame on yourself. I just miss her and wish i could have seen her one more time. This all just caught me by surprise. Even with the month or so I knew her it felt like a lifetime. To me and many others she will be sorely missed. If you know her Mom and Sister who I met briefly send my best. She will always have a place in my heart.

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  • from Ann to Brett

    Brett, please rest easy. It wasn’t the old Subaru you helped her buy. It was my old car, a 92 Honda Accord, and that is a safe car. The tragedy was caused by someone crossing the line and hitting her head on at probably a high speed. I just read this blog today for the first time and your comment has been there for a while so I hope you see this and feel better. We all miss her so much. From Ann, Vi’s Mom

    • Heather lester

      My name is heather lester I have been friends with vi since 1997 or so, in Seattle. We kept in touch over the years but I didn’t hear of her death until months after she had passed. I am headind into new Orleans this weekend and am hoping to get in touch with her mother, ann. And visit her memorial site. Can anyone help me find Ann. Is her memorial site at the rivers edge? Thank you for all of the pictures, I think of her every day. Heather

    • Heather lester

      Ann, this is heather lester. I met you a couple of times while visiting VI in new Orleans. I would love to get together with you this weekend, I am traveling to new Orleans to visit a friend and to sit for a while at vi’s memorial site. Would love to honor her memory with you. With love, heather lester

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